This has to be one of the most frequently asked question I get.   And before writing this article I researched what. Few other mediums have to say about this subject and was shocked to read some of their interpretations of the answer. Whilst I realise it is their view point , they all seem to have the same viewpoint and to be honest it is one I really differ from.

I know I can be outspoken and often find myself saying sorry to an audience because I am blunt and sometimes forget my filter.  But I am who I am and I can’t change and neither should I to be fair. But in this work some views seem really weird ! And I find myself cringing when I hear them.    I view heaven as Planet Zog and have called it this for as long as I can remember. It’s a one way ticket and you need an interpreter when you go there to speak to people here.  It’s the same as earth with the same family members around you but there is no pain ! There are still moaners and groaners but that’s OK if they where like it in life ! I always say growing wings doesn’t necessarily make you an Angel.

So to look at what other people have said about this ……

Yes I have actually read these comments for myself !!!    

• One theory that saddens me is that they are too ill still to come through or need to heal , this has been said frequently especially after tragic/traumatic passings.
• They don’t want to talk with you
• They are too busy
• They need to ascend to a higher place
• They chose to not communicate on earth when they crossed over
• They are lost
• They aren’t settled enough
• They can only talk up to a year after they cross over and then they fade away
• They are on a different heavenly plain
• They’ve been in heaven too long

I actually in my opinion as a medium who has been talking to people in heaven nearly all of my life think  that none of this is true at all and have never had any reason to think anything other from mine or your loved ones who have actually crossed over.

I have literally lost count of how many people have passed over that day who have come through or have had their relatives at an event of mine and their funeral hasn’t even taken place yet !

So let’s take a look at the list above and look at it differently .

• One theory that saddens me is that they are too ill still to come through or need to heal , this has been said frequently especially after tragic/traumatic passing’s.  They do not need time to heal.  My mother passed of horrific cancer that took everything she had including her hair and she appeared in my bathroom before the hospital even rang me to tell me she had crossed over.  My brother took his own life in a brutal fashion and came to see me hours after the police had told of his passing to us. They heal the very moment they draw their last breathe and are filled with an energy that surpasses anything we could dream of here down here.  People who have lost limbs or body parts , all come through with these parts in tact and hey are always so delighted to show me.

• ‘They don’t want to talk with you’. I find this very distressing.   In heaven we most certainly don’t  have the same thought processes that we have on earth and up there there isn’t any angst or he said she said situations. They come to talk to us because they want to and they are able , it isn’t a reason not to hear from them.

• ‘They are too busy’. There is NEVER a too busy excuse , it’s not like they are at work and can’t take calls or they are shopping !

• ‘They need to ascend to a higher place’. This is one I hear all the time they already ascended when they crossed over . And although the Angel experts say they do ascend to higher places on that I agree it is not a reason to not talk to us down here.

• ‘They chose to not communicate on earth when they crossed over’.. There is not this choice , someone doesn’t greet them and say ‘ do you want to ignore your mum for the rest of eternity , I know she annoyed you at times , so up here you can delete the call !!

• ‘They are lost’.  There is NO getting lost.  The signs are well and truly lit and placed for them to see on the highway to heaven, believe me

• ‘They aren’t settled enough’ . Again there is no settling in period , they don’t need to check out their room or unpack . Your loved ones who crossed before them help them with this and its like going back home, you already KNOW your way around 

• ‘They can only talk up to a year after they cross over and then they fade away’ . Utter utter nonsense .  My brother has been over since 1989 and is as ready to talk to me today as the very day he crossed !

• ‘They are on a different heavenly plain’. { see my article on one heaven }

• ‘They’ve been in heaven too long’. I always joke that there is no ‘best before date’ stamped on them , like a bit of cheese from Tesco .  Same rules apply as all of the other comments. They can come through.

So why don’t they come through ?  It is not a given science , in actual fact there is simply no science about the process but you have to take in certain things for consideration.

Although they are ready, willing and able are you ? It is a hugely traumatic experience sometimes and opens up wounds that maybe have only just started to heal.  For some it may be too soon on this earth and no heaven choice need be made. You and you alone may NOT be ready for their message ! Especially if it’s just happened.

The circumstances may not be right for them or you . They have to make sure that everything they tell you is right for you and them looking into the future also.

Would you be ready to hear that you’re going to have a baby or move house or someone is sick and may be slipping away ? You’re loved ones in heaven abscess all of this information.  Are you ready perhaps to hear that your child DID mean to take his life and it was what he wanted ? Are you ready to hear that the hospital did make a mistake and your loved one should still be here ?  There are so many vital parts to the jigsaw of a reading

The venue or setting may be wrong.  They may not like the medium you have chosen or the crowds might be too big for them , they may be a private person.  I like to think of it as a telephone exchange.  With one telephonist on duty ! Like the image here . The guy in the hat is me !!    The wires are your loved ones trying to get through to me !!!   This is so how it feels to me . The lucky ones make it through , when all of the above has been checked and verified and you are ready !! Perhaps the wires got crossed that night or the operator was busy on another call. Maybe your phone was on silent when I connected the call to you or maybe you weren’t paying attention !

How many times have you been to see me after and said , that could have been for me but I Was too nervous to put my hand up.  

It’s a timing thing for me and NOTHING else .  However when the timing is right , it is a purely magical experience like nothing else.

This is though ONLY in an event /reading setting because actually you are your own operator and can talk to them whenever you want and they can and do call you direct every day .

Sometimes your phone may just be out of signal or on mute .

Take a while to read this article and think it through , it will definitely help you understand the process better.

Love as always  Paula xx